MARRIAGE, TRADITION AND MY MOTHER’S WEDDING RING

Amy_hand_ringThis is the hand of my soon-to-be daughter-in-law.  The ring on her finger is 65 years old.  At least.  I know this because it was my mother’s wedding ring, which she wore until she died, and which I have worn ever since.  And now, another generation of our family will wear it as a wedding ring.  It’s a joy for me and symbolic of so much: continuity, Amy’s acceptance of us as part of her life, her respect for Josh’s origins, and, as she readily acknowledges, a love of tradition and history.

When your child decides to get married; it’s a big deal.  New configurations must be established as two families converge: new sensibilities, new rituals and traditions.  More important than all of that though is the wish, the hope, the prayer, that these two people, one of whom you have loved with your whole heart since he entered the world and one you have learned to love — that they will find happiness, the strength to weather inevitable storms, a continuation of the laughter and friendship they so clearly share, of the closeness each feels with siblings and parents, and as much joy as can be apportioned to them.

Seeing this ring, part of my own family since before I was, moving forward in this way, means all those things, stands for everything eternal that we seek and sometimes find.  It’s a gift beyond measure to me and to the family we’ve been and the one we, and they, are still becoming.